Hello, my name is Paul, welcome
Are you experiencing anxiety, low self-esteem or a general sense of being stuck?
Do you need help grieving the loss of a loved one, dealing with a major life change or coping with addiction?
Is your relationship or family life not what you would like it to be?
If so, I am a psychotherapeutic counsellor based in Christchurch working with individuals and couples and I may well be able to help you.
Tel. 07714 978293 or email: counselling@paulallen.co.uk
Individuals and couples come to me with a range of issues, but these are some of the common ones that counselling, and I, can help with:
- Attachment issues
- Boarding school syndrome
- Challenges at college, home, university or work
- Childhood neglect, abuse and sexual abuse
- Confidence and self-esteem
- Creative and professional blocks
- Depression
- Grief, loss and bereavement
- Life changes
- Professional development
- Relationship problems such as communication and the impact of affairs
- Sexuality and sexual identity, and gender
What can counselling help with?
I went to counselling as a way to address my own personal developmental needs and, experiencing the desired change, chose to study and become a counsellor.
I have come to appreciate that it’s never too late or too soon to reflect on how we live life if it isn’t satisfying us the way we think it could, and I believe that we all have the capacity to engage in a process of and effect enduring change.
We will use some fundamental principles of self-reflection and apply them to the challenges you’re experiencing so that together we can find a route to a happier you.
Working with me will help you understand why you feel the way you do, and what to do to bring about the change you seek.
About me
Occasionally, there’ll be something that you’ll need to think about and/or do between sessions. Self-reflection is about evaluating our internal and interpersonal lives and that will happen outside of our time together as well as during it.
Based on Christchurch, I am within easy reach of the New Forest, Bournemouth and Poole, or we can work online.
If you feel we’d work well together, please contact me on 07714 978293 or at counselling@paulallen.co.uk
What clients have said
I came to Paul when I had become overwhelmed & unable to see a way forward. With his gentle guidance, I was able to explore my feelings & begin to understand myself on a deeper level.
I would not have found a happier, more enlightened path on my own, but Paul provides ample amounts of insight & patience to support you. His high standard of care & professionalism is evident, & I would recommend Paul's practice to anyone in need of a helping hand to find their way again.
We cannot recommend Paul enough. The tools & knowledge provided to us have really turned our relationship around. Our communication skills & understanding of one another have improved hugely & we finished our therapy as a more grounded couple.
Paul was an invaluable help for me after I lost my father to cancer early last year. We had weekly sessions for about 9 months & he took me through a journey that involved disentangling my grief, helping me identify my emotions, & uncovering feelings that were being masked. He conducted every session with the highest level of professionalism, but this did not prevent him from being friendly & approachable. He always gave me unconditional positive regard & I was often impressed by his attention to detail & memory of things I had mentioned in sessions long past. He listens with a calm but deliberate concentration & offers his insights very clearly. I would recommend Paul to anyone seeking help.
Paul is a very attentive listener: equipped with genuine empathy, he is very astute in appraising one’s perceptions and assumptions. By working with him, I feel that I have gained new insights to develop my life towards constructive & positive goals. My interaction with Paul has been immensely beneficial, cultivating a practice that helps me to reflect on particular areas of my life with more objectivity, & with more kindness towards myself.
Qualifications and Continuing Professional Development.
Foundation Degree in Humanistic Counselling based on Transactional Analysis Principles, Middlesex University.
Certificate in Relational Couples Counselling.
Childhood Sexual Abuse.
Trauma and the Body.
Practicalities
Fees.
One to one sessions are £60 for 50 minutes.
Couples sessions are £90 for an hour.
Payment may be made in cash on the day or by bank transfer before the session.
I offer a limited number of sessions at concessionary rates, please do ask for details.